Dominance Escalation: Dirty Talking Your Way Into Her Subconscious

In this chapter of our Sexual Dominance Escalation series, we dig into one of my all-time favorite topics: the art of whispering your nasty, perverted thoughts straight into your woman's mind. If this is the first article you stumble upon, I recommend reading the first few chapters in this series before scrolling down.

I've always been a fan of words. In fact, The Female Whisperer name itself came from the title of a book I started writing at the age of 17 about dirty talk. That'll give you an idea of how highly I regard this lost art form.

Before we begin, I must warn you that this article gets quite raunchy. If you're not familiar with the dominance/submission dynamic, some aspects of this piece may disturb you.

Ready? Let's dive in by establishing the most important rule of dirty talk:

Don’t. Fucking. Flinch.

Words are meaningless without the context in which they’re delivered. Whatever you're trying to communicate must be congruent with your body language and tonality. Even the basic "get on your knees, slut!" is nothing but an adorable gesture when delivered with a meek, good-boy smile.

Women have an incredible capacity to detect the subtle cues in your demeanor. If you're trying to cover up your weaknesses by masking yourself as a more dominant and confident man than you are, they won't give you the instinctual response you're hoping for.

If you're new to this, practice asserting yourself with your tonality and attitude. It will feel awkward in the beginning, but you'll fly through the steep learning curve.

The Mindset

While dirty talk encompasses many avenues, if I had to boil it down to one sentence, it would be this: dirty talk is your window to transcend into her subconscious mind and stir up as many contradicting and deeply-hidden emotions as you can. The bigger the stirred pot, the more intense your dominance session will be.

Start Soft

At the early stages, make your woman feel validated and appreciated. Starting this way will set her mind at ease as you progressively turn up the intensity.

Don’t Monologue

While certain phrases are definitely going to come up more often than others, don’t try to memorize a sequence of sentences in a specific order. You won’t be fooling anyone, and you’ll come off as theatrical.

Certain commands require different settings and contexts. What you whisper into her ears as you undress her is not the same thing you'll utter when she's chained with gagballs in her mouth.

She’s Going to Test You

Women subconsciously (or sometimes consciously) will smirk, dismiss, or even laugh at you as you dirty talk into their ears, especially when they’re not used to you talking to them that way.

Don’t emotionally react and fall into the submissive sphere when that happens. Carry on and slowly repeat what you just said.

Don’t Hold Back

Don’t be afraid to sprinkle a little bit of perversion into your words. Describe to her in great detail how you desire her body and how you want to ravish it. In the world of dirty talk, there’s no place for nice guys to stand on.

Save the "I Love You"s for your Valentine’s card. When your woman is being rammed from behind like your own little prey, she doesn’t want to hear about how much you adore her personality.

Play with the Taboos

Remind her of how much of a slut she is for that time you pulled her to the side of the road and fucked her brains out. Did you finger her while her mom was downstairs in the living room? Bring that up and tell her how much you love how nasty she is.

Women constantly have to put on the "good girl" suit when they're outside their thick-walled interiors. By unraveling their perverted thoughts to them, you allow them to reach new highs and feel safe to be their absolute sluttiest as they reveal many of their fantasies to you.

Make Her Feel Owned

Even the most hardcore feminists don’t want to hear about how much you respect women in the bedroom. When a woman feels comfortable enough with you, she wants to feel like your little fuck toy that you use for your own pleasure.

Don’t shy away from expressing that you own her holes and you intend to use them as you wish. Couple that with compliments about what you find attractive about her body and how much she turns you on.

Degradation

If you’re still a beginner, don’t overuse this. Degradation, however, is one of the biggest turn-ons for many women. Phrases like, "you're nothing but my little cum dumpster," are going to awaken a lot of emotions within your woman. If you can’t follow up with your attitude, better leave this until you’ve gained a higher level of mastery.

Before anything begins, start poking at her level of comfort to know which topics will awaken which emotions. It’s quite useful to build a repertoire of her psyche beforehand to know what she’s going to respond positively to.

Dirty Talk Is Not Always Dirty

Learn how to talk dirty without being too dirty, for example:

• "Love the taste of your wet pussy."
• "I haven’t even begun and you’re already wet."
• "Look at how nasty you are, my little girl."

Imposing the dominant theme doesn’t necessarily need to get too vulgar or degrading.

Let Her Talk As Well

It’s absolutely sensational when your woman’s unholy thoughts bubble up to the surface. Give her the space to express her inner slut by commanding her to talk.

Have Her Repeat After You

Directly command her to repeat certain phrases back to you, such as:

• "I’m your little toy, daddy."
• "You play with your fuck doll however you want."