Dominance Escalation: The Before and The After

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In part 2 of the Sexual Dominance Escalation series, we'll cover what you need to do before and after an orgasmic, earth-shattering dominant sexual experience. I'm giving away a lot of secrets here, so take notes, fellas!

Here's how I like to explain it to my students: leading your woman through a cosmically intense emotional roller coaster is akin to stretching an elastic band—you expand it very slowly and let it return to its original shape gently. Aftercare is when we slowly lead our woman back to the real world, never snapping it back in one sudden move.

If you don't have the time or the energy to show your gentle loving side as you restore the emotional intensity to its normal rhythm, do NOT take her there in the first place!

Setting the mood

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Make sure you're in a safe and secluded environment. If you can hear other people, they could hear you as well. She won't feel safe and fully let go of the real world if she feels like others might intrude. This could keep a thread or two in her mind connected to reality, preventing her from indulging in the experience at a deep instinctual level.

Make sure the lighting is dimmed, with proper music playing subtly in the background—nothing too lyrical or distracting that might prevent her from accessing deeper places in her subconscious. Avoid sad or violent music, as those feelings are the ones she is running away from when she's in your loving, protective embrace.

I personally prefer not to have alcohol involved. Most women are used to relying on a glass or two of wine to be at ease, mostly due to experiences with men who can't help them reach that state without it. My advice is to try not to rely on chemicals, as they might dilute or dim our sensations—but to each their own.

Foreplay

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If you've taken part in my sessions, you already know how critical I think this step is. It's not enough that your woman is attracted to you. Take your time with playful verbal and physical teasing, build up the tension through intense eye contact, whisper your unholy thoughts into her ear, and let her feel your warm breath on her neck.

We won't dive too much into foreplay, as it's an art form that needs its own series, but fully internalize the importance of this step.

Sensual massages

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This is my personal favorite, not just for her pleasure but for mine as well. Taking your time to explore your woman's beautiful curves and feeling her soft skin as your fingertips gently glide through her body will put you both in a meditative state that slows your heartbeats and clears your minds. It's your chance to become present and calm as you transcend her into a safe and sensual reality where the rules of the world don't apply.

Orgasms

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I understand that to the average Joe, this is a whole world of mess on its own, but I'll be honest with you buddy—if you don't know how to give your woman a good oral orgasm or make her squirt, you will always be stuck at the shallow level of connection.

It's not rocket science, it just requires a bit of skill with your fingers and tongue and a lot of time. Chances are, if you're at the advanced level, you know her body better than she does, but if you're not, ask her to play with herself. Observe the patterns and try to repeat them patiently and consistently.

Aftercare

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Now that we've covered the basics of the build-up stage and understood the importance of slow progression, we need to pay as much attention to the tear-down part of it.

As mentioned earlier, when you expand a woman's emotional state to the extreme, you must restore it with as much grace and ease. Stroke her hair, give her a few loving kisses on the forehead, and physically express to her how much you appreciate that she felt safe enough to reach such a deep level of connection with you.

Have her lay her head on your chest while you wrap your arms around each other. Hug her gently yet tightly, and take in the beauty of this exceptional moment of bonding with another human being.

A common mistake a lot of guys make here is asking for feedback. Sexual intimacy is not a means to gain validation or boost your ego. Also, don't try to diffuse the tension with humor at this stage—let it gradually dissolve on its own as you both feel each other's heavy breathing calm down.

Now that we've covered the beginning and end, in the next article we'll dig deeper into the core of the main show. Stay tuned!

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