Female Orgasm: The Fundamentals

Welcome to my new series! In this one, we’ll dive deeply into the various aspects of the fascinating world of female orgasm, starting from the basic fundamentals all the way to matters such as full-body orgasms and multiple orgasms.

The series is primarily directed towards men, however ladies, you are welcome to browse through, share interesting bits, and spread the knowledge.

Let’s dig in by explaining the most essential rule, which is:

There Are No Exact Formulas

Building the right mindset towards this begins with understanding that specific formulas or crib notes don’t exist. There is not a single sequence of movements that you could execute in perfect order that will send your lady dancing in the clouds. Sure, some sets of instructions could massively come in handy to a newbie in the bedroom, but what we’re looking for here is something much bigger than that.

The mistake men make when attempting to improve their ability to give women exceptional experiences is that they approach it with this very male-typical, logically precise way, like they’re studying for their final math exam.

The sooner you realize this, the better: becoming a good lover heavily relies on your capacity to understand where your woman is at, mentally and physically, and intuitively knowing what the right course of action is. So in this series, I will attempt to engrave this intuitive understanding deeply within you, allowing you to both enjoy the moment while guiding your woman towards earth-shattering experiences.

It Starts in Her Head and It Ends There

As we covered in the Before And After part of the Sexual Dominance Escalation series, there are environmental factors we must not ignore when setting the right mood to have our woman relax and get out of her head. Failure to get her in the most mentally relaxed state possible will always be the biggest bottleneck as you progress through the different levels of sexual mastery.

We men often forget how busy and cramped with thoughts women’s heads are, and it’s on us to lift them up from the deep wells of overthinking about mundane details and bring them to a safe and secure space where they don’t feel the burden and can let go.

Most Women Have Rarely, If Ever, Met Someone Who Gets It

It’s unfortunate but true, the absolute majority of women have not come across a man who even had the slightest bit of curiosity to understand their deep and complex physiology. Our educational system left much to be desired in that realm.

Many women have developed erroneous beliefs about their capacity to orgasm, and as men, we have to possess a certain level of dedication to help our women unlearn a lot of bad mental habits enforced onto them by less-curious lovers.

Every woman that enters our lives brings with her whatever baggage or mental habits solidified through her experiences in life. Knowing where she’s at and what load she’s carrying on her shoulders will help you figure out the right pace and correct approach.

Your Ego Is Going to Hurt, a Lot

As you read through this article, you might understandably wonder, “Have I been bad at this all along?” That’s when you need to become aware of the strong presence of your ego.

We often associate our understanding of women’s desires with our ego, which is a ridiculous notion when you think about it. If I told you that you’re less of a man because you don’t know how to drive a semi-truck with zero instructions, you’d rightfully assume I’m a complete idiot.

The sooner you divorce your ego from the equation, the easier it will be to open yourself up to constructive self-criticism and set yourself on the right path towards sexual mastery. It will happen gradually and will require exposure to facts that might diminish the self-image you’ve built about yourself being a “natural” gift to women.

The important thing is that you’re here now, no matter how late you think you are. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago; the second-best is right now.

Be in the Moment and Have Fun

Your presence with your woman is itself a massive turn-on. If you’re stuck in the logical side of your brain when she’s naked in your arms, her brain will wander off to far-reaching places and disengage her, rendering your attempts to please her futile.

Think of it as an unchoreographed dance between two lovers. The point of any dance is to feel every movement and let the steps flow. You’re not trying to get anywhere specific, and planning the next 15 steps will clash with her body’s unexpected responses.

When you’re in that flow state, steps will happen through you. Everything you’re going to learn in this series will come effortlessly in the right moment.

Before we dive deeper into the specifics, remember to take notes—but leave those notes at the bedroom door.

Till the next chapter, stay safe fellas!